Wednesday, 29 April 2020

How-to Keep Up Self-Care

Self-respect permeates every aspect of your life. Staying healthy by exercising, getting enough rest, and  watching  your  diet  keeps  your  energy  level  high. It’s  hard  to  feel  good  about  yourself  when  you’re running on empty.

For some people, self-care is the last thing on their to-do list, which doesn’t help you cut it in the real world. If  you  don’t  maintain  the  machine  (you),  it  becomes more  difficult  to  attract  and  attain  your  dreams  and desires. The things you want will become elusive, and you won’t like yourself or your life very much.

By  taking  care  of  yourself,  you  make  it  easier  for positive experiences to be a part of your life, because, quite simply, like attracts like, and feeling good brings good things to you.

It sounds easy—and it is—but it requires  that  you  like  who  you  are  and  feel  that  you deserve some of the goodies the world still has to offer. By  becoming  an  Olympic-level  couch  potato,  you can’t put out the energy required to make things happen.

The truth is that, when you are tired, getting anything done  or  keeping  things  in  proper  order  becomes arduous.

We’ve all had days when we just didn’t want to get out of bed. Imagine where you would be if you did that nearly every day. It’s pretty hard to make anything happen when you can’t get up until the crack of noon.

Energy  can  be  enhanced  with  proper  self-care.  If you don’t know what to do, just start with the basics:

Take a walk, cut out the Haagen-Dazs, and go to sleep at  a  decent  hour.

If  you’re  really  struggling  with  self-care,  you  may have a little depression going on, and you should get it checked out before embarking on a fitness plan. Your emotional  well-being  has  to  be  fully  functioning  for you to be able to take better care of your physical body.

The fear of doing something new or different can keep you locked in its grip if you don’t fight your way out.  Sometimes  it  helps  to  make  strong  demands  of yourself,  but  you  can’t  force  the  issue.

This  is  where getting a personal trainer or joining a gym can be helpful. Upon occasion, we all need someone to inspire us (or kick us in the butt) to get our bodies moving and our hearts pumping, and to start making healthy choices.

Sometimes  we  just  get  into  a  bad  pattern.  Not taking  care  of  ourselves  first  becomes  a  habit,  then  a lifestyle. If you think you are there, it’s really time to make some changes.
So put down that cigar or candy bar, pick up a bottle of water, change into your walking shoes, and hit the pavement. Not only will you feel better about yourself, but you may just make a few new friends who are also committed to getting healthy.

Always Have A Plan B

We all have big changes in our lives that are more or less a second chance. Because many things don’t go as well as we would like them to, it’s a great idea to have a “Plan B.” Having fallback plans can’t help but make you feel better about the  outcome  of  any  situation,  and  it  is  a  common denominator among very self-confident people.

Anyone  who  has  had  more  than  one  failure  in her  life  can  tell  you  that  having  another  path  to  take probably saved her bacon a time or two. I’m a big one for  contingency  plans.  If  you  are  an  entrepreneur,  in the  arts  or  media,  or  you  have  all  your  eggs  in  one basket, a Plan B is essential.

Knowing that if you lose the farm you have a condo you can go to makes you feel safer in the world. I know a number of people who have motor homes, and one of the reasons they do is, as they jokingly say, it’s their “in case” home. During the last big earthquake here in Los  Angeles,  many  people  who  had  them  were  very grateful—and those of us who didn’t were envious.

With the world economy in turmoil, creating some kind of additional income stream is also a good idea. The jeweler who is also a great designer or builder, the computer  geek  who  can  also  teach  school,  or  the  PR person  who  is  a  closet  novelist  can  all  find  a  way  to thrive even if their current position disappears.

Backup  plans  don’t  have  to  be  new  ideas—I continue  to  use  aspects  of  everything  I’ve  ever  done. My days on stage playing guitar have made me a better public speaker, which makes me a good radio host. The energy  I  put  into  songs  and  poems  has  helped  them become columns and books.
The years I spent running my  own  business  give  me  the  insight  to  help  others streamline theirs. 

And all of my experiences have made me  a  confident  and  successful  therapist.  Every  talent and  ability  you  have  can  be  built  upon  and  also  used again.  Not  that  I’d  ever  again  want  to  be  on  a  tour bus with six smelly guys for eight weeks, but if I had to I could still put food on the table by humming and strumming.

There’s  another  potential  upside  here:  Sometimes your  original  plan  and  your  backup  can  work  at  the same time. I still counsel, consult, write, and speak to groups all over the world. In years when the speaking business  got  very  slow  (such  as  after  9/11  and  then the  financial  crisis),  I  spent  more  time  writing  and counseling.

When  there  was  a  lull  between  books, I  put  more  energy  into  my  radio  show  and  business consulting, and did pro-bono events. Having multiple options gives you the sense that, if any one thing went away, you’d have other gigs that would more than fill the gap.

So get a little creative. Look at your past accomplishments and your current talents. A Plan B is only an idea away. By the way, this Plan B thing works in life, but not in relationships. Having a backup mate is only going to erode your current relationship and cause heartache for everyone involved. Enough said.


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