Wednesday, 29 April 2020

How-to Have Multiple Perspectives, Always.

Trust yourself. Then you will know how to live. Having the mental capital to invest in your ideas, the hard  work  ahead,  or  your  interpersonal  relationships gives you a leg up on those who do not.
If you don’t have the confidence that you possess the smarts you need to make your life work, there are other intelligences you can access that are just as (if not more) useful than your brainpower, and none of them require a college degree.

First, it may be necessary to reevaluate how you feel about intelligence. The reality of multiple intelligences has  become  widely  accepted;  it’s  not  just  about  IQ anymore. Employers,  evaluators,  and  educators  now look at EQ (emotional intelligence) and CQ (creative intelligence)  as  well  as  a  few  others  when  evaluating talents and abilities.

Although  they  both  would  kick my butt in an intelligence test, we agreed that I’d score higher  in  creativity—and  who  would  argue  with  the likes of them? I  share  this  anecdote  to  help  you  understand  the importance of being able to see your whole self and not just one component.
Very few of us can be doctors and/or lawyers, let alone both. Just because you’re not the smartest student in the class doesn’t mean you can’t be the most creative person in the workplace.

Continuing  to  compare  yourself  to  someone  who may  have  scored  better  on  a  test  or  gotten  a  higher degree makes life more difficult. Does he know how to navigate his life as well as you do? Does she accept who she is and feel confident about herself? These questions won’t  be  found  on  the  SATs,  but  your  answers  really show how you score in this game called Life.

You  have  all  the  intelligences  you  need,  and  your talents and abilities in other areas more than make up for what you think you might lack. Think about it, and also know that if you don’t start believing in yourself, the gifts you have may become a little stale. Don’t let a false belief keep you from forging ahead to make your world and the one we all share a better place.

Always Have A Plan B

We all have big changes in our lives that are more or less a second chance. Because many things don’t go as well as we would like them to, it’s a great idea to have a “Plan B.” Having fallback plans can’t help but make you feel better about the  outcome  of  any  situation,  and  it  is  a  common denominator among very self-confident people.

Anyone  who  has  had  more  than  one  failure  in her  life  can  tell  you  that  having  another  path  to  take probably saved her bacon a time or two. I’m a big one for  contingency  plans.  If  you  are  an  entrepreneur,  in the  arts  or  media,  or  you  have  all  your  eggs  in  one basket, a Plan B is essential.

Knowing that if you lose the farm you have a condo you can go to makes you feel safer in the world. I know a number of people who have motor homes, and one of the reasons they do is, as they jokingly say, it’s their “in case” home. During the last big earthquake here in Los  Angeles,  many  people  who  had  them  were  very grateful—and those of us who didn’t were envious.

With the world economy in turmoil, creating some kind of additional income stream is also a good idea. The jeweler who is also a great designer or builder, the computer  geek  who  can  also  teach  school,  or  the  PR person  who  is  a  closet  novelist  can  all  find  a  way  to thrive even if their current position disappears.

Backup  plans  don’t  have  to  be  new  ideas—I continue  to  use  aspects  of  everything  I’ve  ever  done. My days on stage playing guitar have made me a better public speaker, which makes me a good radio host. The energy  I  put  into  songs  and  poems  has  helped  them become columns and books.
The years I spent running my  own  business  give  me  the  insight  to  help  others streamline theirs. 

And all of my experiences have made me  a  confident  and  successful  therapist.  Every  talent and  ability  you  have  can  be  built  upon  and  also  used again.  Not  that  I’d  ever  again  want  to  be  on  a  tour bus with six smelly guys for eight weeks, but if I had to I could still put food on the table by humming and strumming.

There’s  another  potential  upside  here:  Sometimes your  original  plan  and  your  backup  can  work  at  the same time. I still counsel, consult, write, and speak to groups all over the world. In years when the speaking business  got  very  slow  (such  as  after  9/11  and  then the  financial  crisis),  I  spent  more  time  writing  and counseling.

When  there  was  a  lull  between  books, I  put  more  energy  into  my  radio  show  and  business consulting, and did pro-bono events. Having multiple options gives you the sense that, if any one thing went away, you’d have other gigs that would more than fill the gap.

So get a little creative. Look at your past accomplishments and your current talents. A Plan B is only an idea away. By the way, this Plan B thing works in life, but not in relationships. Having a backup mate is only going to erode your current relationship and cause heartache for everyone involved. Enough said.


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